"Is that all you're going to say?" Corwin persisted.  
>"What I 
>mean is... aren't you going to give me the usual speech about how I'm 
>a really great guy, and you like me a lot, and you hope we can still 
>be friends?"

To quote Freud, "sometimes a cigar is just a cigar". You seem to be reading this scene as if it's propaganda, and it's not. Neither Utena nor Corwin picked up an Advanced Gender Relations elective during their time in school, and because of that, they didn't realize that their relationship was inappropriate and so they went ahead and did what worked for them.

"This is probably a stupid question, but . . ."