>I was actually in a polyamorous relationship for a while, and the
>thing that makes this even worse is, in real life nice tidy trios and
>foursomes are quite rare.
On the other hand, situations where not everybody is necessarily into everybody else probably both complicate and simplify matters to a certain extent. 'Cause it's true, I've known people who were into that sort of thing, and their networks tended to be a bit more distributed. (A woman whose husband's girlfriend is not also her girlfriend, but from whom that other branch is not a secret; and such-like.)
We haven't really seen that happen in any of the really prominent plural relationships in the Symphonies so far, that I can recall off the top of my head (with the obvious and special exemption of Azalynn). They tend to be reasonably closed units, like "conventional" relationships with an extra person in them. This is not as a result of any particular conscious agenda on my part, I should note, but it does seem to be how such matters have unfolded for me thus far.
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