There were far too many conditions to be satisfied before I could come out to myself. I had to admit I was fallible (everyone should), I had to overcome my fear of becoming unemployed, and my partner and I had to achieve financial stability; leaving me room to stress about other things. But also I had to learn the language that meant I could be not a man whilst also not really being a woman. I was ready to go into the pool; but not to dive in you might say.

Ten years earlier and I'd have to dig into much more obscure places to find words like "non-binary", "genderfluid", and so on. Twenty-five years ago when I could really have done with them I don't think they existed.

I'm sticking with 'Senji' online; people generally seem to react to it without gender preconceptions even though the original is irascably male. Kids of today just didn't read the classics :-D

>But yeah, aside from that, it feels like an eerily similar trajectory.

Well, I think the only reply to that is "congratulations!"